Taking a Break

"My boyfriend and I have been dating for around 2 years now. But lately it feels as if were drifting apart slowly. After confronting him, and getting into an arguement we both decided to go on a break. I guess college got in the way we are both busy now since high school. The arguement was just about time management. We both agreed on the break. Was that a good idea?"

~Anon

Dear Anon,

I think it's better if you end things cleanly and mutually now before it gets complicated and messy later. Most people leave their high school sweethearts once they get exposed to the outside world (college, travelling etc.) They may have been the most awesome person in your High School, but not necessarily the world. And maybe you both have just realized this. There's nothing wrong with that.

Just break up. If you don't meet anyone, you can always hook back up. But if you meet someone during a "seperation" it creates a messy situation if/when the other person doesn't. Also creates the assumption and jealousy of being "cheated on" even if you say you don't "mind" if they date. It's a clear set ending that says, "We are through. If you want to date, go date. If you don't, don't. It is no longer my business."

What might be harder for you now, will make things easier in the long run.

~S